
When asked why I say "silver lining" I always think of my son. My husband and I had been married for 5yrs before we ever knew we couldn't have children. I remember pregnancy test after pregnancy test that all had the minus sign. I watch as my friends had these beautiful babies and all I could think is I need a baby. Lucky for me I had one friend who let me be involved with there small family and share in there daughter life.
When we finally found out we couldn't have children we knew adoption was the way. I was adopted as an infant and Ward was adopted by his grandparents. So we knew this was the right choice for us. First we went to Adoption Advocates and found out what we need to do to adopt a child. We decided to do the the foster adopt program.
We needed to get a home study which was going to cost a chunk of change but it was if the spirit came over me and told me this is the time. So I sat down with Ward and let him know that I knew this had to happen now...we couldn't wait not even a week.
So we had a wonderful Home study done. ( to be honest...I learned a lot from that visit) We went to foster parent classes and got certified. Just one thing left to do...first aid and CPR class. But before that could happen we got a phone call...I was at work right by the hardware counter. I heard the page for me so I went to the phone...I remember saying "This is Kassie in cosmetics ... How may I help you?" It was Adoption Advocates and they asked if I was sitting down? I kinda just laughed and said "No, I'm out on the floor right now." Then they went on to ask if we were interested in a private adoption instead of a foster adopt. All I could say was "Yes". They explained the differences. I just didn't care at that moment. They then told me we had 3 months till the birth of baby and oh by the way its a boy do you still want to do this. I barely remember anything else we might have said at that time. All I could think was I have to find Ward. Everyone wanted to know why I had to find him so bad. I was so excited and scared. One of the first people I told was trying to build me up for the let down. In my mind all I could think was "Shut Up".
So Noah will always be our silver lining. In less than 6 months I was holding a beautiful Samoan baby boy. Who we named Noah (after my grandpa) Cole (the name we picked together) Halelani (Ward and his grandfathers middle name) Symonds.
There were times I wait for the phone to ring or the shoe to drop and someone to change there mind. But he is ours. Its weird how they take after you in so many ways. He looks like Ward but is a drama King like me.
We just got his birth mothers graduation announcement in the mail with a lovely picture of her in it. We talk with Noah about how he didn't come out of my belly and we show him Malia's picture and tell him he came out of her belly. We always ask him who love you the most.... his answer is always very long... but then we go on to tell him Malia loved him even more cause she wanted him to be safe, happy, healthy, and loved. We tell him she chose us to be his parents. He is a Silver Lining. He is my miracle.